tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22699699735811357062023-11-16T11:15:29.251-05:00The Option Institute BlogThe Option Institute Blog featuring contributions from your favorite Option Institute teachers and staff!Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.comBlogger329125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-60920135926981574612016-03-22T14:21:00.002-04:002016-03-22T14:21:59.590-04:00<div id="fb-root"></div><script>(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//connect.facebook.net/en_US/sdk.js#xfbml=1&version=v2.3"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs);}(document, 'script', 'facebook-jssdk'));</script><div class="fb-post" data-href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/posts/812135338919899:0" data-width="500"><div class="fb-xfbml-parse-ignore"><blockquote cite="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/posts/812135338919899:0"><p>MISS-MESSAGING TO OUR CHILDREN:"I know better than you." -- Their conclusion: "I'm not intelligent enough to know."...</p>Posted by <a href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/">Bears Barry Neil Kaufman</a> on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/posts/812135338919899:0">Monday, March 21, 2016</a></blockquote></div></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-68741332820870868512016-03-21T15:19:00.001-04:002016-03-21T15:19:45.833-04:00<div id="fb-root"></div><script>(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//connect.facebook.net/en_US/sdk.js#xfbml=1&version=v2.3"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs);}(document, 'script', 'facebook-jssdk'));</script><div class="fb-post" data-href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/posts/810026285797471:0" data-width="500"><div class="fb-xfbml-parse-ignore"><blockquote cite="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/posts/810026285797471:0"><p>WORK OR DOING YOUR BLISS?I mentioned to some of my students that i hadn't worked in over 35 years. "Wow, they said, I...</p>Posted by <a href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/">Bears Barry Neil Kaufman</a> on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman/posts/810026285797471:0">Sunday, March 20, 2016</a></blockquote></div></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-28614574238997249862016-03-09T11:53:00.005-05:002016-03-09T11:53:44.908-05:00CAN YOU HAVE A LOVE AFFAIR WITH A CAR?<b><span style="color: red; font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">CAN YOU HAVE A
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<span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">A car can’t hug you. It won’t
take care of you when you have a fever. It won’t cheer you up when you are
feeling blue. Okay – is this a guy thing to have a love affair with a car?
Actually, one of my granddaughters loves cars – she likes to look at them,
identify them and talk about the dream car or cars she will eventually buy for
herself. </span><o:p></o:p><br />
<span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">So the answer to the question –
can you have a love affair with a car? – is ABSOLUTELY. I bought my dream car
in my mid-twenties (I had achieved success at the time working in the motion
picture industry) and kept that car for twenty years. I tend to stick with the
relationships I choose. I loved its classic lines. And the very glamorous front
grill. And this vehicle cornered around the curves in the road like a sports
car although it was a very, very large four-door sedan. Inside…well that’s
another story. Soft glove-leather seats, dark wood trim (real wood) and a cabin
as quiet as a meditation room that floated on wheels. And the motor – well, it
just purred at stops signs and roared when you pressed the accelerator to the
floor. Me and my car – well, we were an “item” (not for anyone else but all in
my own head). I would even tap the fender from time to time and express
appreciation out loud…oh yes; I would talk to my car. All relationships really
need active authentic verbal exchanges.</span><o:p></o:p><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">This particular photograph of
my car is very special to me because one of my children sits atop the vehicle,
with feet dangling through the sun-roof. That little person also loved that
car, especially the hole in the roof.</span><o:p></o:p><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif;">Eventually, my car and I went
our separate ways. Today, and for the past 16 years, I drive my beloved Toyota
SUV – yes, yes, it’s another long term love affair. What I have learned (and
which began all those years ago) is simple: <span style="color: red;">WHATEVER
YOU DO, WHATEVER YOU ACQUIRE – DO IT WITH GREAT ENTHUSIASM, DO IT WITH
MEANINGFUL APPRECIATION…DO IT WITH LOVE!</span> Cars. Furniture. Toasters.
Coffee-makers. Mattresses. Houses. Smartphones. Sandals. Your Facebook Page. A
Favorite Hat. Oh, and yes, with people, too. Especially with people!!!</span><o:p></o:p><br />
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<i><span style="font-family: "Arial",sans-serif; font-size: 11.0pt;">Love, Bears
Barry Neil Kaufman, Author “Happiness Is A Choice,” To Love Is To Be Happy
With” and “No Regrets” and grateful to be key member of the Option
Institute/Autism Treatment Center of America teaching staff.</span></i><o:p></o:p>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-27664812037513259592016-03-09T11:49:00.001-05:002016-03-09T11:49:45.888-05:00Happiness Option Weekend - March 11-13, 2016<div id="fb-root"></div><script>(function(d, s, id) { var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; if (d.getElementById(id)) return; js = d.createElement(s); js.id = id; js.src = "//connect.facebook.net/en_US/sdk.js#xfbml=1&version=v2.3"; fjs.parentNode.insertBefore(js, fjs);}(document, 'script', 'facebook-jssdk'));</script><div class="fb-post" data-href="https://www.facebook.com/optioninstitute/posts/10153878891571399" data-width="500"><div class="fb-xfbml-parse-ignore"><blockquote cite="https://www.facebook.com/optioninstitute/posts/10153878891571399">Posted by <a href="https://www.facebook.com/optioninstitute/">The Option Institute</a> on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/optioninstitute/posts/10153878891571399">Tuesday, March 8, 2016</a></blockquote></div></div>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-39284666333226335712013-08-22T14:43:00.000-04:002013-08-22T14:43:12.787-04:00Listen, just listen<span style="font-size: large;">Listening.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">There is nothing quite as delicious as truly being present and hearing what there is to hear.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;">Today, listen, really listen to your partner, your lover, your child, your parent, your employee, your employer, your teacher, your student....</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-size: large;">You may hear something you've never heard before - not because it hasn't been said, but because you were there, you were ready, you were listening this time.</span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-size: large;">And in the listening you may find a significant opportunity for yourself and the person who you are listening to. </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><b><i>Communication, Understanding, Acceptance, Love</i></b></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span>
<b><i>just listen</i></b><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><b><i><br /></i></b></span>
<span style="font-size: large;"><br /></span>Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-13285003041731074862013-08-07T17:50:00.001-04:002013-08-07T17:50:27.269-04:00POSSIBILITYHere's a great starting point:<br />
<br />
<span style="color: red;"><b>We do not know what we can do or become.</b></span><br />
<span style="color: red;"><b><br /></b></span>
<b>Not until we try....</b><br />
<b>And even then, we can try again.</b><br />
<b><br /></b>
<b>Be Bold, Dream, Don't let go.</b><br />
<b><br /></b>
<b>You know what I'm talking about, don't you. Yes, it's that thing you still want that you haven't done yet.</b><br />
<b><br /></b>
<b>Want help?</b><br />
<b><br /></b>
<b><i>Fearless, </i> September 22-27, at The Option Institute.</b><br />
<span style="color: red;"><b><br /></b></span>
<span style="color: red;"><b><br /></b></span>Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-4896091127482091952013-07-31T12:22:00.002-04:002013-07-31T12:22:47.013-04:00Training CampIt's Training Camp time in the NFL - The National Football League.<br />
<br />
Seems there are two types of participants vying for a job.<br />
<br />
Those that are competing with the competition.<br />
<br />
Those that are competing with themselves: those players who are delivering their personal best to shine and make their mark. These guys aren't so much thinking about the competition but rather asking themselves -<br />
What can I do to excel? How can I prove to myself my usefulness?<br />
These guys are not looking outside of themselves for affirmation of their self-worth, they are creating it from the inside out.<br />
<br />
When you move through your life, are you busy checking out the competition?<br />Or are you creating your life from the inside out, day by day?<br />
<br />
Training Camp ain't over till it's over, know what I mean?<br />
<br />
<br />Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-59109963381985917692013-07-26T11:17:00.000-04:002013-07-26T11:17:34.823-04:00Swallow the UniverseWhen I play my saxophone, first I swallow the universe, then I close my eyes, then I send the universe back out to itself. When I play my song, if I am honest, I become the song.<br />
<br />
Because I am the master of my universe, just as you are the master of your universe.<br />
Become your song!<br />
How do you do this?<br />
You have all the tools you need inside, to be the master of your universe.<br />
<br />
Want some help with that?<br />
Take a program at The Option Institute.<br />
<strong><em>Break Free From the Past - </em></strong>Autgust 5-9<br />
<strong><em>Radical Authenticity - </em></strong>August 12-16<br />
<strong><em>Fearless - </em></strong>September 23-27<br />
We're here, waiting for you, wanting to help you become the Master of your Universe!Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-92230894364840242672013-07-09T12:20:00.002-04:002013-07-09T12:20:50.687-04:00Face To FaceThis weekend we had our <i style="font-weight: bold;">Happiness Option </i>weekend program at the Option Institute.<br />
Face to Face, for them, meant figuratively "looking in a mirror" to recognize limiting beliefs and<br />
having the opportunity to change beliefs not serving them.<br />
Take a look in your mirror today. See just one belief you are still holding that you would be better off<br />
without. Hey, then change it!<br />
YES! It is that simple. Then find the evidence to support that new belief.<br />
Let my know how you did with this.Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-2145316139794858582013-06-28T09:50:00.000-04:002013-06-28T09:50:20.424-04:00Who’s in charge?<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><img id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.option.org/email_pages/Inspiring_Stories/incharge_image.jpg" /></span><br />
<strong><i><span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 11.5pt;">Photo Notation: Canon Beach, Oregon coast - we are in charge!</span></i></strong><span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14.5pt;"> </span><br />
<br />
<span style="color: #820024; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Dear Sweet People,</span><br />
<span style="color: #820024; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br />
How often do you make friends with things that you are uncomfortable with?
Please read on to reveal that by accepting and inviting our challenges in, in
the very least, you have added more good to your life. <br />
<br />
Okay, some of us believe we're in charge of our happiness/unhappiness. Yes! Now
what about our biology? Research demonstrates that our beliefs impact not only
our physiology but also our vitality, our immune system, the way we age, etc. Do
we believe it? <strong>Let's
try some POSSIBILITY THINKING:</strong> <i>convert dis-ease to ease,
make friends with our asthma, cancer, Autism, and visualize what might be
possible</i>. We wouldn't turn away our friends if they showed up at our door.
We'd invite them in. <br />
<br />
So, now, imagine our physiological challenges are our friends (yes, I did write
"friends") knocking at our door. Mr. Johnny Diabetes. Ms. Jenny
Fibromyalgia. Mrs. Elena Arthritis. <i>Let's invite them in</i>. Sit them down
at our table. Have a talk, give our illnesses a voice. <strong>Don't push them away</strong>.
Go ahead, write down what our illnesses say. Get to know them better. Make them
our friends. Then love them. See what happens. <i>If nothing noticeable
happens, at the very least, we've added more good will to our lives</i>.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Love and Smiles, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Bears </span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-21490265020984789362013-06-21T10:17:00.002-04:002013-06-21T10:19:28.045-04:00Why not today?<br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><img id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.option.org/email_pages/Inspiring_Stories/bears_youngraun.jpg" /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="color: #820024; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;"><br /></span></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="color: #820024; font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Dear Sweet People,</span></span>
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Do you listen to your inner voice? Please read on to reveal that you can always
do exactly what you want! <br />
<br />
It doesn't matter if you've thought small, created walls and limitations,
viewed yourself as untalented or incapable. It doesn't matter if everyone
around you said, <i>"No"</i> or <i>"You can't"</i> or <i>"Be
realistic."</i> What matters now is for you to listen to your inner voice,
define what really matters to you and take action toward your goal. Imagine you
live in an intentional, user-friendly universe that supports your effort, even
if that is not immediately apparent. Go! Now! <strong>Do what you most want to do! Be who you really want
to be!</strong> <i>What are you waiting for?</i> </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><i><br /></i></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">With Love, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Bears</span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-18117989865698942992013-06-14T12:56:00.001-04:002013-06-14T12:56:25.418-04:00Signs of mental decline or mental incline? <span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><img id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.option.org/email_pages/Inspiring_Stories/bears_hat.jpg" /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Dear Sweet People, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">How often do you ask
yourself how you are doing or how you are feeling ... right at this moment? <br />
<br />
One key sign of mental decline is asking the same question or same kinds of
questions repeatedly. I laughed when I noticed that criteria topped the list
identifying mental decline. How often have I asked people in the past 30 plus
years ... <i>"How are you feeling?"</i> or <i>"Why are you
unhappy about that?"</i> or <i>"Why do you believe that?"</i> <br />
<br />
I always considered such devoted curiosity and fascination were signs of mental
incline!!! <br />
<br />
So ... here are some mental incline questions: <br />
<br />
<i>"What am I thinking right now?"</i><br />
<i>"What am I feeling right now?"</i><br />
<i>"What am I doing right now ... and why?</i><br />
<br />
<br />
Ask away ... more than several times a day ... these questions allow us to take
a moment to pause and observe ourselves from the inside and outside ... these
questions allow us to educate ourselves about ourselves ... and ultimately
provide self-knowledge which leads to self-change. <br />
<br />
Ah ... it's all a matter of perspective or "make believe" or make up
a belief about the meaning of who we are and what we do. <br />
<br />
Enjoy your mental incline.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Love, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Bears </span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-21801263407458245492013-06-07T10:10:00.004-04:002013-06-07T10:10:58.429-04:00Who do you thank?<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><img id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.option.org/email_pages/Inspiring_Stories/thank_image.jpg" /></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">How often do you show
gratitude? Please read on to reveal that even with all of life’s challenges,
you have many things to be thankful for. <br />
<br />
Perhaps ten or twenty times a day, I notice I am expressing appreciation.
Sometimes aloud and directly to someone. Sometimes quietly in my thoughts. And
then I notice another category of thank you's that I express rather lavishly at
seemingly random times throughout the day - when I am hiking through a forest,
drinking a Starbucks Iced Mocha Latte, hugging one of my grandchildren, writing
a post on Facebook, talking to Siri on my iPhone, finishing a class or an <strong><i>Option Process® Dialogue</i></strong>
session, gazing right at Samahria as she smiles at me, working on my next book
or eyeing the full moon (as I did at 5:00 am this morning). <br />
<br />
In all these many situations, I hear myself saying in a gentle whisper, <i>"Thank
you, God, thank you, universe."</i> Have I worked diligently, sincerely,
with great effort and energy in my life? Yes. Have I had great challenges and
difficulties to overcome? You bet - like all of us. Has the road been smooth?
Oh, I am laughing! So many curves in the road! But here I am, still here, as
imperfectly as that might be, and really, really, really grateful for an
endless array of gifts, even those that didn't quite seem like gifts at first
glance. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, God. Thank you, universe.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Love and Smiles, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Bears</span><br />
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-14065520213866376832013-05-31T11:10:00.000-04:002013-05-31T11:10:34.747-04:00IT'S NOT ABOUT GETTING WHAT YOU WANT!<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><img id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.option.org/email_pages/Inspiring_Stories/bears_head5.jpg" /></span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Please read on to
reveal that happy people get what they want or want what they get ... <br />
<br />
We all have a laundry list of what we want: a new car, a flat belly,
acknowledgment from our boss, appreciation from our spouses, money in the bank.
However, what comes to us or doesn't come to us often seems outside of our
control. How do we handle this? If what we want is to be happy, we can find a
way to want everything we get, even those things we would typically not prefer,
like no money in the bank, extra weight at midwaist, criticism from our boss,
or the end of a relationship. It might sound counterintuitive, but it's about
wanting what we get, even if what we get is the opposite of the items on our
list. We can decide to want them (once they have happened) and create
opportunities from any such events. <i>HAPPY PEOPLE EITHER GET WHAT THEY WANT
... OR WANT WHAT THEY GET!</i> </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><i><br /></i></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Love, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Bears</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Barry (Bears) Neil Kaufman<br />
Co-Founder of the Option Institute™ & Autism Treatment Center of America™,
Home of <em>The Son-Rise
Program</em></span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 11.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">®</span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">,
Author: <em>Happiness Is A
Choice</em>, <em>Son-Rise:
The Miracle Continues</em> and <em>No
Regrets</em>. </span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-16164118209248291352013-05-24T10:25:00.003-04:002013-05-24T10:25:33.003-04:00I CAN or I CAN’T?<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><img id="_x0000_i1025" src="http://www.option.org/email_pages/Inspiring_Stories/bryn_teach2.jpg" /></span><br />
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<br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt;">Did you
know that it is up to you to choose your beliefs? Please read on to reveal that
YOU can choose how you view every situation in your life. <br />
<br />
Common knee-jerk reaction to situations:<br />
<i>"This is bad for me, and/or I can't handle it."</i> <strong><i>The Option Process®</i></strong>
alternative: <i>"This is good for me and/or I can and will handle
it."</i> <br />
<br />
Different belief filters through which to view a situation: <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<li class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The
first belief filter brings on stress and discomfort (and, with them,
decreased immune system function).<o:p></o:p></span></li>
<li class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman";">The
alternative belief produces comfort, even excitement (healthy immune
function).<o:p></o:p></span></li>
</ul>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Unhappiness = discomfort/disease. Happiness =
possibilities for greater health/healing. AND THE KICKER IS: WE CHOOSE OUR
BELIEFS, which determine whether we will be happy or unhappy. What freedom!
What possibilities! <br />
<br />
Try this: pause after your next pessimistic knee-jerk reaction and do an
optimistic REPLACEMENT BELIEF. You can do it. We have taught thousands and
thousands of folks HOW to do it. Nothing to risk, nothing to lose. Go ahead,
flip some beliefs and let me know what you did!</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;"><br /></span>
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Love and Smiles, </span><br />
<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;">Bears</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14.5pt;">Barry (Bears) Neil Kaufman</span><span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-fareast-language: EN-US;"> </span>Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-62382181925666028402013-05-20T10:28:00.001-04:002013-05-20T10:28:32.527-04:00WHEN WE ARE BRITTLE, WE BREAK<div style="text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;"><br /></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">Do you consider yourself to be flexible? Please read
on to reveal that flexibility allows you to move wherever you want in life. <br />
<br />
Years ago, we built buildings out of hard materials to be strong and withstand
environmental challenges, such as earthquakes. Those structures collapsed
anyway. Today we build buildings to be flexible, to sway and to move. We even
put some of them on underground rollers. The lesson: when we're brittle, we
break. <strong>When we're
flexible, we move with the wind and the currents.</strong> <i>We
survive. We thrive</i>. Be flexible. Be like the wings of an aircraft (built to
flex with the air currents). The universe celebrates itself through constant
change. Nothing is set (that's only an illusion). Everything flexes. Everything
moves. Motion is a sign of life. Rigidity is the echo of death.</span></div>
<div style="text-align: left;">
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<span style="font-family: "Helvetica","sans-serif"; font-size: 14.5pt; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin;">With Love, </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: 14.5pt;">Bears </span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-53913111892017326092013-05-10T09:21:00.001-04:002013-05-10T09:21:05.669-04:00IN HER EYES AND IN HER HEART!<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: 12.0pt;">In the morning, she could
crawl across the room beside a child tracking an invisible path over and over
again -- laughing, tickling, loving. In the afternoon, she would speak
passionately about possibilities <span class="textexposedshow">and give guidance
to moms and dads who came to our home from around the world to learn how to
help their children with autism. At dinner, she would embrace her own six
children with ease and caring and with endless patience to listen to the
stories of the day and encourage communication, always sharing affection with
big smiles and gentle touches. Later, she could put on a blue shirt with a
simple scarf -- and look in my direction, then take my hand and hold it so very
tight -- IN HER EYES AND IN HER HEART! She never stopped...the next day,
another family to help, another mom to console, another dad to inspire, another
child to understand and love...then always turning to her own children with the
same concentration and caring...then back to me. Maybe it was because we worked
together throughout the day...and carried the same torch and the same vision --
that I never felt separate from her, even if we were in separate rooms or
different buildings. But I also always could stand apart and look at her and
think, "Thank you, God, for my best friend and for my amazing girlfriend
and this lovely angel in my life." </span><br />
<br />
<span class="textexposedshow">It's been decades since I took this
photograph...and as I gaze at it and share it with you, I am aware that I see
even more beauty, more wisdom, more laughter, more joy than ever in Samahria,
still my very best friend and my amazing girlfriend and now a lovely angel not
only in my life but in the lives of thousands and thousands of people. </span><br />
<br />
<span class="textexposedshow">Thank you, Samahria</span><br />
<br />
<span class="textexposedshow">~ <a href="https://www.facebook.com/barryneilkaufman?directed_target_id=0">Bears
Barry Neil Kaufman</a> (Co-Founder with Samahria Lyte Kaufman of The Option
Institute, The Son-Rise Program and the Autism Treatment Center of America
& Author of "Happiness Is A Choice" and "To Love Is To Be
Happy With" and "No Regrets")</span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-49713790431506304852013-05-06T13:03:00.000-04:002013-05-06T13:03:00.045-04:00Core Beliefs to Adopt … to DropDear Sweet People,<br />
<br />
Please enjoy this inspirational story of the very first Son-Rise Program® Playroom and its influence on so many parents, children, professionals and volunteers.<br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiU2svemNf6hhONWrBW-Dtfobbua7v3m25BDZVwtTQCXiGhDsz4n5WENBKFb9ykC4CA25WZXqzGHg-vYnJcbRPqkhpqjd7ukRBrkX-dgyyaKmESB4P1j0Om22TU3pDjAAssYal53L99ih0/s1600/optionblog.png" imageanchor="1"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiU2svemNf6hhONWrBW-Dtfobbua7v3m25BDZVwtTQCXiGhDsz4n5WENBKFb9ykC4CA25WZXqzGHg-vYnJcbRPqkhpqjd7ukRBrkX-dgyyaKmESB4P1j0Om22TU3pDjAAssYal53L99ih0/s320/optionblog.png" /></a><br />
<br />
[Photo Notation: Interacting with one of the program
participants at the Option Institute™/Autism Treatment Center of America™]<br />
<br />
What are your core beliefs?
Please read on to reveal that only you can change what you believe!<br />
<br />
• Drop: "I cannot change; this is the way I am." Adopt: "I can be whoever I want to be."<br />
• Drop: "Change is difficult." Adopt: "Growing myself can be easy."<br />
• Drop: "It takes a long time to change." Adopt: "It will take as much time as I believe it will take."<br />
• One more adoption: "I can get what I want if I give what I want a voice."<br />
<br />
With Love and Smiles,<br />
Bears<br />
Barry (Bears) Neil Kaufman
Co-Founder of the Option Institute & Autism Treatment Center of America™, Home of The Son-Rise Program®, Author: Happiness Is A Choice, Son-Rise: The Miracle Continues and No Regrets.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01963289690663263918noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-32729701298996866932013-03-14T06:54:00.002-04:002013-03-14T06:54:23.543-04:00From Rekha: Is change frightening or exciting?<br />
So many people I work with are frightened of change. They come to me with a barrel load of issues that cumulatively create a lot of discomfort in their lives but still they are scared of what might happen if they change it, so they insist on holding on to it as it feels safe. So I wanted to take some time and talk about what I think about change.<br />
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I believe change is something we can not stop, our bodies are constantly changing growing from foetus, to baby to child, teenager, adult and then we go thorough the process of ageing further. If we believe this is bad then sure enough it will give you reason to be unhappy however if we look at this change as miraculous, just as the caterpillar comes from an egg, goes into a pupa and then becomes a beautiful butterfly then beginning the cycle again the butterfly mates and lays eggs and withers. To date I have never heard anyone call or describe a butterfly as something that is bad, hard, terrible or ugly!<br />
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<a href="http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3d/Charaxes_brutus_natalensis.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="213" src="http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/3/3d/Charaxes_brutus_natalensis.jpg" width="320" /></a>So why not give it a go, allow yourself to evolve and change? Rather than holding yourself back in a state of discomfort believing change is hard, why not call it beautiful and what mother nature intended for us! This then makes the whole concept an adventure, exciting, no longer frightening. So we enjoy the process of becoming something even more beautiful!<br />
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Rekha :)<br />
www.rekhaneilson.co.uk<br />
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Rekha Neilson, Option Process Mentor-Counsellor, Son-Rise Program Mum, Keen cook :)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01921150207693328312noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-5545069958459776842012-09-28T16:00:00.001-04:002012-09-28T16:00:50.606-04:00Make the Goal happen!<strong>Join our year-end campaign</strong><br />
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<strong>you will attach more meaning to your life.</strong><br />
<strong>OK, that's all about you</strong><br />
<strong>You will also help a child overcome autism, help a family desperately wanting our services and needing financial assistance, make a truly significant difference in the lives of others.</strong><br />
<strong>Thank you so much!</strong>Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-61921498435854562742012-09-20T05:07:00.003-04:002013-03-14T06:56:39.181-04:00From Rekha:Acquiring happiness…<br />
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I have been hearing about various friends pre-ordering and queuing
up for their new iphone 5. I know many
of them are strapped for cash, well many complain about not having enough but
they still go after that upgrade and aspire to acquire that phone whatever the consequence. There is nothing wrong with that at all and
they have their own reasons for doing that, but it reminded me of a time in my own
life a many years back where I hinged my happiness and comfort on acquiring something.
I remember thinking “when I get that new……then
I will then be happy”. The problem was I went through hell to get that thing,
and when I got that new thing I felt a sense of joy temporarily but the
emptiness inside was still there, so I reached out for the next thing and then
the next and repeated it like a mantra. I wonder how many people do this???</div>
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Now I feel and behave differently because I think
differently, I do make purchases but they are not like a carrot that I dangle
before myself as if my whole happiness and existence is hinged on acquiring that
thing. So even if I don’t get that item
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Rekha Neilson, Option Process Mentor-Counsellor, Son-Rise Program Mum, Keen cook :)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01921150207693328312noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-61594616605262135312012-08-25T02:38:00.001-04:002012-08-25T02:38:57.789-04:00From Rekha : Safety in tears<span style="background-color: white; color: #333333; font-family: 'lucida grande', tahoma, verdana, arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12.727272033691406px; line-height: 17.999998092651367px;">Yes you read the title correctly. What does that mean? well here is my experience and that of many others that have shared with me...we (as a population) tend to hold on to sadness/discomforts in situations as we feel safer doing so than to go to a more comfortable space...we hang on to the worst case scenario, the worst prognosis or even create fears now based around possibilitie</span><br />
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s that could or might happen in the future. So why? One of the main reasons is because we are taught to so we believe it is the safe way to travel, and we buy it. There is nothing wrong with doing any of those things however it like most things in life has consequences... stress, anxiety, depression, and the physical manifestations e.g. high blood pressure, heart attacks and science is even now finding strong links with cancer! SO here is a suggestion if you want something different try something different. Trust you being comfortable in that moment is going to serve you...more comfortable people experience clarity and are more productive, better relationships and lower risk of disease. Give it a go what is the worst that can happen? ;)</div>
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Rekha Neilson, Option Process Mentor-Counsellor, Son-Rise Program Mum, Keen cook :)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01921150207693328312noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-2178076988134597172012-08-14T15:47:00.003-04:002012-08-14T15:47:43.364-04:00Today's stretch<strong>Relax (breathe) - Pay Attention</strong><br />
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<strong>Then....Whatever scares you, do it <u>now</u>.</strong>Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-83689794684686699212012-08-09T16:11:00.000-04:002012-08-09T16:11:38.826-04:00TweakingIn our <strong><em>Radical Authenticity</em></strong> program this week at The Option Institute, one person had a very interesting thought. This person said, "No one has ever met me - they have only met their beliefs about me!"<br />
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Huh? Well, think about this. We all see each other and, in truth, the world around us, through our own lenses, our own belief system. So, before any judgement, check out your information. How accurate are your beliefs about the other guy? What do you trust - what you see or what you <em>believe</em> you see?<br />
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Here's the other side of that coin: How do you present yoursefl to the world: Authentically or masked?<br />
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Isn't it very incredible and wonderful that we can just keep looking at ourselves and keep tweaking who we are, who we want to be, and growing ever more comfortable in our life!<br />
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Happy tweaking.Clyde Haberman, Option Institute Senior Teacherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00337595620060088907noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2269969973581135706.post-3663789846429565432012-08-02T14:35:00.000-04:002012-08-02T18:45:42.431-04:00From Rekha: Maintenance is bliss!<br />
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Whilst doing my housework this morning I
had a fleeting thought of how my regular effort at maintaining the house keeps
it nice and clean and also prevents build up of tough grime, rot setting in and
infestation, which can take a lot of hard work to bring the surfaces back to clean
or decent condition. However, so many
people I know are happy to quite literally brush things under the carpet, or
leave the dust building behind furniture and say “Ignorance is bliss”. I like to use this as a metaphor for ourselves
and our issues. I work with so many
people who have swept things under the carpet for so many years that they now
suffer from stress, anxiety which often then lead to stomach ulcers and heart
attacks or obesity if you are a comfort eater to just name a few. They try and appear “fine” on the surface
where underneath they experience a constant discomfort and disease! So this brings me neatly (excuse the pun) to
the title of this blog, why not adopt the belief that “Maintenance is bliss”. Why not be constantly working on yourself to
help clean out all those things you don’t need any more to stop the rot setting
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