The difference between a flower and a weed is a judgment. I wrote that at the very beginning of my book, "To Love Is To Be Happy With." I am reminded that when people are challenged by special children, an illness being diagnosed, the loss of a lover, the collapse of their income or being deeply misunderstood or maligned, they often think something bad is happening. Weeds? Or Flowers? We get to choose.
Love, Bears
Weeds are merely plants (or situations) that we don't yet know the use of!
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I struggle with this one from time to time. I am in a situation now where my wants are a partner, children, and a successful career. I lost my partner 5 years ago and have not successfully found another mate (have been dating, and not finding a match). I am 36, and want to experience pregnancy and having children very much, but biologically my time is running short. I had a job until two months ago, when I was laid off, and haven't had luck finding a new one, despite my applications. Simultaneously, my credit card dropped my limit down to what I owe (citing the economy as a reason- I have never had a late payment). I don't have any savings, and this sudden lack of financial resources means I may soon need to move out of the rental cottage that I love. It seems recently that there are many circumstances that have challenged the life I want to create.
ReplyDeleteSo, as I have all these wants, and circumstances stand in the way of them, I have the internal dialogue about weeds and flowers. How can I see the loss of my partner, the loss of my job, the lack of children or a love interest in my life, as a flower, and not a weed? I watch so many friends find love, have babies, and share their happiness with me, and I sometimes feel a tug inside of me when I hold their babies or see their love. I can see my job loss as a flower, in that it frees me to explore new directions. But the lack of children or a love interest are things I do struggle with reframing as flowers, because I want them so much. Which I guess makes them needs and not wants if I let them dictate my happiness? I lose emotional clarity in the lessons I learned at Option sometimes, and I am often working to find my way back now, rather than having that clarity just exist within me. Thanks for this post. It's a good prompt for me to explore. I'll be doing a lot of internal dialoguing in the coming days, I am sure, as a result! Much gratitude and love to you!!!
I am reminded that when people are challenged by special children, an illness being diagnosed, the loss of a lover, the collapse of their income or being deeply misunderstood or maligned, they often think something bad is happening.
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