Showing posts with label Author: Option Process. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Author: Option Process. Show all posts

Monday, October 31, 2011

From Rekha: Should you be happy?

I was talking on the phone to a lady a few days ago about the work I do as an Option Process®Mentor-Counsellor, in this conversation she said “…it is selfish to just be seeking happiness, we should be doing god’s work not just walking around being happy…” This prompted me to reflect on what I was doing just a few years ago, when I was very unhappy verses what I do now I am much happier.
In 2005 I picked up a form to apply to Caudwell charity for a place at the Son-Rise® Start Up programme, this was a simple one page form not terribly demanding for someone of my ability to fill in but I didn’t. Why? I hear you ask, the answer is that I felt so hopeless that I didn’t believe we would get funding, it would be a hard struggle, I worried that may be this wouldn’t work for Rohan (our son with special needs), worried at the possibility that I would do it wrong and be rejected, the list went on…basically I was very unhappy. It took me over 18months to stump up the courage to fill that form in!
Last year 2010 I took our local authority to court over Rohan’s education, I ran a full time home schooling (Son-Rise) programme in which I had several team changes, I set up my counselling practice which is now thriving so I am helping so many other people with the skills I have, I remodelled part of the house this was whilst caring for our six year old daughter with my husband working away 3 weeks per month, and no we don’t have any family locally either…and that is not the whole list!. I was so much more effective at supporting my kids/family, my ambition, friends and clients. What changed? Well I believe different things, I fill myself with beliefs that support my comfort, happiness…yes I am totally selfish and I love it and I would like to believe that god likes my work!
Rekha.
Option Process Mentor-Counsellor, Son Rise Mum.
www.rekhaneilson.co.uk

Thursday, September 9, 2010

RE-IMAGINE/OUR FIRST INCEPTION

BLOG FROM BEARS: RE- IMAGINE/OUR FIRST INCEPTION!

Here we go...an experiment and/or the cusp of an expanding idea of the Option Process and what is possible. Today, a Son-Rise Program Mom and a graduate level student of the Option Process decided to play and join in taking a journey back and then forward in time. We had been working together for several days. This amazing lady challenged old demons and, at the same time, charted new territory for herself in her life. It was about relationships, about family, about giving what we do meaning, about being kind to ourselves and cutting ourselves some slack if we're not happy at times or judgmental at times or even angry and unkind at times. Streaming dialogs in a marathon of dialogs over two days...Samahria and I as the mentors, this daring woman and her husband awesome explorers and relentless self-students of themselves. The evening before we had presented the idea of inception...but a very different kind bouncing off the movie Inception that Samahria and I had seen. This concept would be a flexing and widening of happiness is a choice and encouraging the universe toward possibilities perhaps untapped.

Okay...dreams within in dreams. Worm holes. Parallel universes. And the concept of seeding the past with a new premise and event (all make believe) to birth forward a new evolution of that past and explode it into the present.

We did in the form of a guided meditation/visualization. My explorer went back to a past event with her mom, when she was five years old --scared and greeted with what felt like harshness by a parent. A little girl now confused and alone. A seeming act of unkindness and judgment replaced and visualized now with a loving act by a loving mother toward a frightened child. The explorer smiled broadly as she re-imagined that event -- the warmth in her mother's eyes and arms and the warmth she now created as she visualized herself at 5 years old again (very different from the original experience). Then, I suggested she take herself and her mother two years forward and re-imagine the next event...but coming from the new, re-conceived and relived event she had just "incepted" into her mind and the universe. She realized her and her mom had a new connection with a new result happening...nourishing now for them both. Then I had her move forward another 3 years, then another 5, then as a young adult...then into the present. What this amazing explorer now visualized was a completely revolutionized mother-daughter and mother-daughter relationship as a natural outgrowth of a different path taken.

So, what we then had was two versions of herself and two version of her mom in real time. We could call one set of these people flesh and blood...but the other set, re-imagined. Both real -- one with physical life, one with make-believe life.. Two moms. Two daughters. The re-imagined daughter now even sees the flesh and blood mom differently. This then creates a new opportunity for both. Our explorer, still guided as the meditation/visualization continues, puts a white/yellow light around her newly-visualized mom and fills that light with her love -- and anchors that image so she could bring it forth anytime she want...to express more love, to embody her re-imaged self and mom with more light.

A seeming act of unkindness lived forwarded brought about in 'flesh-and-blood time' more acts of additional unkindness. Yet, when seeding each other with love, love blossomed forth. Which mom will prevail now? Which daughter?

When we created a very special expansion program (Calm Amid Chaos) of the Option Process at the Option Institute, I felt, personally, that I had taken my own learning to the next level. Creating an Intelligrid to organize the apparent chaos. Stimuli re-conceived in a benevolent universe. The cause is in the future (not the past). Change is continuous. Most everyone who has taken that program felt permanently transformed by creating for themselves a new personal vision in which they could create peace-of-mind during the unpredictable winds of change. I am considering this construct of re-imagining with place of a new inception could now precipitate the next generation growth of what we teach.

Stay tuned. We will continue to experiment and perfect further the possibilities in which choice is always in the now but embraces our entire past and can be influential on our future/the future. While we still have breath,, it is never too late. We can not only kiss the ground we walk, but kiss all the ground we once walked in our memories (all memories always exist in the present; thus, accessible for re-recreation or re-imagination).

Tick-Tock...yet all of us have all the time we require for what we would like to do...inception of kindness, inception of love, inception of a re-conceive past which could/would impact the present which defines an evolving future.

Love and smiles, Bears (Barry Neil Kaufman/Option Institute/Son-Rise Program Co-Founder)