From Rekha: What do you want to think about ‘it’?

I Drove into town this morning to drop both my kids off at school. Rohan my 9 yr old boy with special needs started having a seizure. I was on a road where I was travelling at high speed and couldn’t safely stop to help him. From the back I heard my 7 year old daughter Serena calmly coaching him to breath and celebrating his attempts to focus himself to bring himself out, which he did and eventually sat up in his car seat again. I celebrated Serena and Rohan’s efforts and dropped the children at their schools.

I thought about it later and noticed a smile on my face, I was so in awe of what Serena did for herself and her brother. I thought what an amazing skill she has learnt to be loving and a calming influence in a time when someone else is in need, how lucky she is to have developed these skills at such a tender age. What an amazing ER doctor she would make, I know I would want her to treat me!

Then I thought back to my beliefs a few years back when I was thinking…how awful and terrible for my daughter to be in that situation watching her brother suffer, what a burden I have created, this is bad for her and it could scare her and scar her for life, Rohan must be petrified and I can’t get there to help him, I have failed them both as a mother!

The fun thing is the stimulus is exactly the same, it is my beliefs that have changed and so has my world…

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving
We don't need a holiday to do it.

missed the date? This doesn't mean you can't still make
Thanksgiving a bigger part of your life.

Giving feels good!

Help one person, and see the feeling you give to yourself.

Help two people, and double your feeling.

Thanksgiving works for everyone.

From Rekha: Should you be happy?

I was talking on the phone to a lady a few days ago about the work I do as an Option Process®Mentor-Counsellor, in this conversation she said “…it is selfish to just be seeking happiness, we should be doing god’s work not just walking around being happy…” This prompted me to reflect on what I was doing just a few years ago, when I was very unhappy verses what I do now I am much happier.

In 2005 I picked up a form to apply to Caudwell charity for a place at the Son-Rise® Start Up programme, this was a simple one page form not terribly demanding for someone of my ability to fill in but I didn’t. Why? I hear you ask, the answer is that I felt so hopeless that I didn’t believe we would get funding, it would be a hard struggle, I worried that may be this wouldn’t work for Rohan (our son with special needs), worried at the possibility that I would do it wrong and be rejected, the list went on…basically I was very unhappy. It took me over 18months to stump up the courage to fill that form in!

Last year 2010 I took our local authority to court over Rohan’s education, I ran a full time home schooling (Son-Rise) programme in which I had several team changes, I set up my counselling practice which is now thriving so I am helping so many other people with the skills I have, I remodelled part of the house this was whilst caring for our six year old daughter with my husband working away 3 weeks per month, and no we don’t have any family locally either…and that is not the whole list!. I was so much more effective at supporting my kids/family, my ambition, friends and clients. What changed? Well I believe different things, I fill myself with beliefs that support my comfort, happiness…yes I am totally selfish and I love it and I would like to believe that god likes my work!

Rekha.

Option Process Mentor-Counsellor, Son Rise Mum.

www.rekhaneilson.co.uk

From Rekha: Dialogues create possibilities…

From Rekha: What I love most about the Option Process dialogue is that it creates such a safe place that it allows explorers to create possibilities they never thought that were available or indeed possible!

Here are just a few of the new universes people created for themselves as a result of doing Option process dialogues with me:-

• A man who hadn’t contacted his father since he was a boy because he had been told by him that not too. Made it mean he was unlovable, when this was questioned he quickly changed his belief to that his fathers actions meant nothing about him. As a result he re-contacted him after nearly 20years and his father thanked him for getting in touch and they have arranged to meet!
• A professional and mother of an autistic child felt down and depressed not believing that it was possible that she had the capacity to be happy. After just one dialogue she awoke the next morning feeling clear headed and able not only felt happier but able to challenge her little boy’s sleep routines in a comfortable manner, something she wouldn’t have done before!
• A young women who was drugged and assaulted whilst in a foreign country, found peace with her assailant and realised she wanted to reach out to others and support them with her learning.

Every dialogue not only impacted their own life but the lives of their family and community bringing more peace, sharing and progress.

This is why I love, love, love my job!

Rekha.

www.rekhaneilson.co.uk

From Bears: Be flexible

Flexibility and buildings: Years ago, we built buildings out of the hardest materials to be strong and withstand environmental challenges - like earthquakes. They fell down anyway. Today, we build buildings to be flexible...to sway, to move, even put some of them on rollers. The lesson: when we're bridle, we break -- when we're flexible, we move with the wind and the currents. We survive/we thrive. Be flexible.

Be like the wings of an aircraft. Movement is a sign of life. Rigidity is the echo of death. The universe celebrates itself through constant change -- nothing is set (that's only an illusion). Everything flexes -- everything moves. We can be intentional and design/redesign ourselves for the greatest capability to the flexible and to move. Love and smiles, Bears (Co-Founder/Option Institute)

Comments:

Barbara Beckmeyer - My mother used to say the gift of patience is patience..it like that with being flexible. The more flexible I become the more options I see in every situation..Thank you for teaching me about the Intelligrid and sharing such wonderful tools for living my wonderful, yummy life!

Tim Smith - Love the comment. It is mind yoga, good for the body too. :) :-) :) :)

Karie Bourke - Earlier today I was looking to see if you had posted anything new, Bears, and now here we go! Just what I needed, thanks :)

Akiko Hara - "Comment" / "Like" .... Where is the "Love" icon? I love it!

Frank Seidel - Inspired flexibility is my new mantra. I am a free spirit on fire! Thank you for a wonderful week with such extraordinary men!

Alison Sharpe Taylor - So often in my past the guidance I have been given by those around me has been in the form of what not to do - don't drink, don't smoke, don't sleep around etc, the result of that was I still had no idea what to actually do, and because my ...'advisors' were so fervent in their desire to teach me about how bad I could be if I made these wrong choices that I became afraid to think things out for myself because surely I would just mess it up. I think that a whole lot of rules of what not to do leads to us being rigid and brittle, because we become afraid to move in case we get it wrong.

Knowing that I am my own expert and that I have my own answers means that bit by bit my thinking is becoming more flexible and I am beginning to believe that I could make choices for myself that would be nourishing rather than destructive.

I am so hugely grateful to you Bears and the staff of the Option Institute for showing me this.

Best love

Tauska Trusaun - This speaks so directly to my core. Thank you Bears. I loved it so much that I shared it on my page. I hope it is ok.

Judy Meyers - I love the sayings go with the flow and accept what is! They have helped me be so much more flexible! I am still working on resisting some things and when I do I tense up. This weekend for example I went home to visit family and I was pl...aying my long time role of peacemaker and harmonier. I tried to calm down my family members engaged in drama, chaos, and conflict. After the weekend my neck was so stiff from the resistance and tension. I realized I have to go with the flow and accept what is and if I don't like it, I can go for a walk or drive, etc. I don't have to stay in it. I also can choose to observe and not get involved. There are many choices and I can choose differently from my past and give up old roles that no longer serve me. Thank you, Love Judy

Lorna Miller - I wrote a blog post about just this! Go to http://www.miracleforross.com/ to read it! It's called "Just Float." Thanks Bears!