Thursday, August 5, 2010

Waiting for "Difficult" to Be Over?

FROM SAMAHRIA (Samahria Lyte Kaufman): We seem to always pray for the challenges to be over. As crazy as it may sound, why do we create suffering till it ends? When it's over, is that then the only time we can say, "Ah! Now I can be happy."

What would happen if we truly opened our arms and embraced "difficult"?

After all, even when it's over, it certainly isn't the end. Somewhere down the line, we'll be getting another opportunity to learn something in our lives. We might as well give them all "Ahs!" as we encounter them... since we CAN.

Instead of saying NO (this is bad for me) to something we think we don't want, imagine we said YES (this is going to be good for me). We may not know how that will look, but we can decide there's a gain/learning/gift in this, even before we know what that will be. How will that affect how we feel when difficult comes to visit?

7 comments:

  1. If I said YES, I could relax... I am relaxing. Thank you :o)

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  2. Thank you for sharing this. I say yes to it all!

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  3. Samahria, this is a classic example of why you are THE ORACLE! :-) XOXOXO!!!!! ...and thank you, thank you, thank you for this perfectly timed message!!!

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  4. Bingo.. Embrassing what is..... I also like Iyanla Vanzant's thought of, "what would love do in this situation?"
    Thanks!

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  5. Yes - I have finally learned that waiting to be happy until difficult is over is wasting a lot of time I could be happy. It's like not really being alive when things are difficult and that's not really living much! "This too will end" they say but I love the concept of not having to wait to be happy untll then but being happy now despite the challenge at present. When I find I'm not happy that's okay too - I can choose to stay unhappy or choose to be happy at that moment. quite empowering!

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  6. Dearest Samahria....when my son got arrested last week for armed robbery in Central Park I knew it was an opportunity...was it not for you and my other gurus at Option, I'm sure I would have fallen apart. Now, whether he goes to jail or gets the treatment he needs, I know this is a great learning opportunity, a part of life, and something I must either embrace or watch as it crushes me...I choose to embrace. I also know that I don't have to understand it and that the cause may be in the future...Idk what yet, but I can trust in the benevolent universe and await the day that the cause reveals itself. I am indebted to you and Bears for sharing your beliefs and wisdom with me. Love and Kisses

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  7. "Waiting" also seems so passive... And it's all about the future, not the present. The present moment is the only place where we can actually choose to do anything. Why not choose happiness!

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