I had been working on this particular question since my prior visit to The Option Institute, which was, "Why is the approval of other people more important to me than my own happiness?" As I wondered and worried on the question over a few months, it changed slightly to be, "Why is the approval of other people more important to me than my own authenticity?" At least in theory, I could be inauthentic and choose to be happy about my inauthenticity. I'd been doing that off and on for years, but it wasn't creating the life I wanted. I packed my question for the trip along with my toothbrush, but decided that once I walked out of my front door, the question was not getting back into my house. I might drag my question all the way to Sheffield, MA, but I was not leaving without an answer.