FROM BEARS (Barry Neil Kaufman): Inner Strength -- not a given or a "right" but fundamentals we can develop. 1) learning to "explain" ourselves to ourselves, 2) making relationships where they didn't exist before, 3) showing up fully/being present, 4) maximizing being authentic (allowing people to see what's inside), 5) choosing love and loving as our center, 6) getting skillful in being happy, no matter what. Attitudes/Tool -- we can learn.
Years ago, I did judgment and anger to feel strong. Then I figured out another path to Inner Strength. I think of all the programs I teach at The Option Institute, this one is so, so central. Judgment and anger is not only an illusion of power; it's often unpleasant and self-defeating. It separates rather than creates bonding. It's promotes the seeds of violence and war rather than creating a community of folks that can hold hands respectfully, even joyfully, with each other. In the end, the ultimate Inner Strength is our ability to take ownership of who we are and what we do -- and to maximize our choice to bring our most authentic, accepting and loving self into all our relationships.